Do you ever forget people are dead?

[ameliag]

I was just getting set to make some coffee, eggs, and bacon. I picked up the phone to chat while cooking, even though I'm not a big phone person. Mostly use it to talk to family. And I started to dial my grandmother's phone number. Only she has been dead for like five years now and the number I was starting to call hasn't been hers in a lot longer than that. Guess I really really needed that iced latte.

I remember the Fathers Day after my father's father died, he started to shop for a gift in a window and then remembered his dad was dead.

Do you ever forget people are dead?

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yup

[faux-pseudo.livejournal.com]

I was cooking at my moms house one day and she offered me some of great grandma's cooking supplies that she had in the house. I didn't know why mom would have kitchen supplies from 3000 miles away so I asked "Isn't she cooking any more?" And then I learned that not only had she died a year ago but that my roommate and I had spent 30 minutes finding the right flower arrangement to my grand mother because of her moms death.

Oh, ya. Forgot she died. I always knew I was bad at keeping track of people but that really hit home.

[ghoulgurl.livejournal.com]

It's been nearly four years, and I still catch myself on occasion reaching for my cell to call my mom when I have something exciting to tell...

[antisocial.livejournal.com]

Oddly enough I've been alive for going on 33 years now and only 3 people I know have died. All three happen to have been grandfathers. When only 2 were dead I would sometimes forget which one was the living one still, but now they are all gone so it's easier.

[annathema667.livejournal.com]

i've attempted to call my best friend, brian, who died on new year's 2004/2005 MANY MANY times since he's been dead... it's not until i can't find his number in my contact list before i realize, each time, "Oh, yeah... he's dead." sometimes it makes me laugh... other times it bums me out... but i spent 13 years of my life calling first for everything in my life, that well, it's a hard habit to break for the extremes on either spectrum...

it's normal honey...

*big hugs*

p.s. and man, do i know how hard it is to get a phone call... ;)